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Why Do We Fear Falling For Our Best Friend?

Selasa, 28 Jun 2022 14:00 WIB
Why Do We Fear Falling For Our Best Friend?
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Having a really good friendship with our best friend brings us nothing but a good place for everything, be it for sharing laughs and tears. Being friends with someone for a long time will eventually make us feel comfortable and safer when they're around. It's always interesting to befriend with the opposite sex since it's fun to see how men tend to see things logically and how women have the tendency to be more sensitive about small things   this could be a good lesson for both parties in friendship.

However, considering all the ups and downs they went through together and the comfort each other can give to one another, overtime, it could be hard to deny that there's a teeny tiny feeling that each other have. Yet somehow, it's something that most of us fear to have, a romantic feeling for our own best friend. The fear of falling for our best friend often resides on several 'what-if'. Concerns like what if I'm the only one who feels this kind of feeling for them? What if they feel burdened by my feelings for them? And, what if my feelings do nothing but harm the bond we have built for so many years?

Despite all the concerns you carry within, your feelings remain valid. For all the time and comfort they give you, you will eventually find a spark once a time when they make you feel like nobody ever does. A lot of good friends can do things that romantic partners cannot. Friends usually say what they need to each other without fear, and good friends are more likely to be spontaneous with their activities. It's not wrong to feel something more for your best friend but how you act is one thing that you should consider.

It's safe to say that the bond between you and your best friend is somewhat a gamble if you want to take a further step in your relationship. However, don't rush it. The most common mistake that people often make is when they rush things. Oftentimes people confuse love with another kind of caring love they feel for their best friend. So, don't spill your guts right away despite the pressure and burden you want to lift off your shoulder for all the thoughts and feelings you have for your best friend. That's definitely a mistake you want to avoid.

You may want to find another good friend you can trust, someone that you feel comfortable with to share all your heavy thoughts and disturbing feelings. Verbalize your deep emotion about your best friend whom you share feelings with. The other friend will definitely help you to have self-control so you don't commit an action that may jeopardize your friendship with them.

On the other hand, spending a lot of time with your best friend, you should be able to read their moods, body language and intention whenever you're together. You should be able to get some sense as to whether or not the friendship has developed into more romance for them   as well as yourself. If you have seen some of the signs that they might be romantically-interested in you, then you might want to begin to talk to them about the feelings you carry for them.

First and foremost, the feelings you have for your best friend is not a mistake that you blatantly take   it's something that develops over time. Moreover, we can never choose whom we want to be in love as real love is rich, pure and self-sacrificing. To experience that kind of love with anybody is a priceless gift.

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