It's somehow inevitable that people around us tend to come and go despite how much we are attached to them in different ways. Being left by someone who used to accompany us through days and nights, our ups and downs, must have caused a lot of effect on our life. There are indeed certain things that you can do to cope with the frustrating lonely feeling, however, it's always easier said than done by people who are not going through it. Instead of dictating what you should do, here are some things that you might want to remember and avoid when you're on the tip of the iceberg.
Lowering your standard
It must be very devastating when your significant other walks away from you after years of being together. The romantic feelings that used to be fulfilled just vanished like that in a blink of an eye, and you're only left with loneliness from today onwards. The feeling of being alone can lead you to encouragement on seeking for another one to fill the emptiness. One thing that you should not forget is never lower your standard whenever loneliness hits you hard at times. There are indeed people who adore you out there, but are they worth the time and energy to spend time with? Thus, don't stick with someone in mediocrity doing it with a lack of ambition-and forget the standard you always stood for.
Comparing with others
Everyone has their struggle that they don't want to share with others. If you look at your friend and compare their normalcy in social circumstances or on social media, you will only bring yourself down even more. Just remember, people will always put their best facade in front of everyone, whom they don't want to share their problems with, so comparing yourself with others will do you no good but damage. You only need to focus on yourself by acknowledging your feelings will pass as the time heals.
Dwelling in loneliness
Acknowledging that your loneliness will pass is what's indeed needed. However, using acknowledgement as your validation to dwell in your loneliness and rejecting help is not as healthy. According to Mind, feeling lonely can also negatively impact your mental health, especially if these feelings have lasted a long time. Some research unveils that loneliness is associated with an increased risk of certain mental health problems, including depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, sleep problems, and increased stress. Feeling lonely is not a damaging condition for your mental health. However, if you decide to let that loneliness linger for a long time, you will only face something worse.
Rely on dangerous substances
Indulging in alcohol or dangerous drugs has been known to be the most common coping mechanism for people who're facing the struggle of being lonely. However, once you find comfort and are helped by this escapism, you will tend to be dependent on this one. Nevertheless, the consequences of relying on drugs and alcohol will only make your current situation severe and cause many heavy health and mental complications.
There are a lot of positives to indulge yourself with when you're on the edge of loneliness. One thing to remember and put faith in, this is just a phase, and you will eventually pass it. You're the only one who knows how long the phase will last, as it depends on your effort to come out of that cave. One thing is for sure, you're not alone, and there are people who care and love you in this world.