You may or may not have heard about this new trend in dating, prioridating. First coined by dating coach Laure House, prioridating is all about prioritizing yourself and your primary needs in order to find and build a healthy, lasting relationship.
According to her, people have dated based on a list of wants, many of which are superficial or not thoroughly thought through. She argued that those wants are opposed to core values and relationships-sustaining needs that will impact their future. Basically, prioridating is about finding someone who fulfills the one most important thing you need in a relationship.
Prioritizing yourself and your needs can help ensure you find a partner who is actually good for you. Not only that, it can lead to a more rewarding connection as well. It makes sense at one point, because if you put your well-being as your foremost priority, it can be the foundation of any healthy relationship.
Think of it as zeroing in on the one thing you absolutely need it could be kindness, easy communication, safety, financial support, shared perspectives, interests, hobbies, values, and more. Moreover, "Prioridating is about you your life, your experience of life, based on your perspective, created by your past experiences, that shaped who you are and what you need moving forward."
Whatever it might be, prioridating begins with "determining your priority, getting clear on your number one most important core value, then becoming confidently and unapologetically vulnerable about it to align yourself with that priority."
Instead of trying to find someone who checks every box on a long list of must-have traits or similarities, choose that one thing you desperately long for in someone to build a happy and long-term relationship.